Seeking parity between work and home feels like you are on a quest in search of an elusive ‘holy grail’; it must exist out there somewhere! You know it does! You just have to find it!! Everyone who works has a life outsdie of the office, right?
Balance: What is it, what isn’t it, and how can I get some?
What works for one person simply doesn’t work for another. It won’t make sense to compare your work/life formula for balance to someone else’s. Given the reality that work and life are in constant flux, creating different pressures on us at different times, there ARE a few simple things to do to help create some balance in your life:
- Every once in a while review the demands on your time: What are the demands on your time at work and at home? What things are you involved in that are ineffective uses of your time at home and at work?
- Prioritize the demands on your time: Are you doing the right things first? Do you know what the most important tasks are or do you handle the easy things first, the biggest things first, or the loudest things first?
- Develop skills needed increase efficiency: If you have a tough time ending conversations, you need assertiveness skills. If you spend lots of time worrying about things that might happen in the future, some stress management training would help. If you often miss deadlines, time management or project management skills are an area to improve in.
Integrate these techniques into your day becasue they help create a strong sense of balance:
Positive Self-Talk – The ability to tell yourself that you CAN do things and have handled things like this in the past serves as a reminder that you have managed before to deal with challenges and this is just another in the series;
RET (Rational Emotive Therapy) – Reframe beliefs you have that create emotional reactions into more logical beliefs that don’t create as much internal chaos;
Letting Go of Perfectionism – Don’t allow “Perfect” to get in the way of “Good.” You may be the only person who sees any difference between those two things;
Protect the Essential – Those few things that are absolutly crucial are rare. They are critical to your values and standards so make sure you don’t comproise them lightly.
Supportive Relationships – You should be able to identify at least 5 people in the key areas of your life (Work, Family, Friends and Community) that can jhelp you should you be in need. The goal is to reduce the sense of isolation that can lead to stress and frustration.
Balance is really created by you for you. While it isn’t always easy to manage the demands of work and home, if you know THAT – it’s the first critical step in keeping your balance!