We all have an internal sense that there is a binary choice when confronted with a threat or an uncomfortable situation. This is known as the fight or flight response. When feeling threatened by people or things that create a sense of danger, we choose to fight and take on the threat or depart – to live another day.
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Few of us can wear clothes off the rack and have them look like they were custom made for us. And so it is with jobs. There are few (if any) perfect fits when it comes to employment.
A poorly executed jump in status can hurt a person’s career and have a negative impact on the workplace. However – being plucked from the group and asked to serve is rarely an opportunity to turn down if you are excited about advancing your career.
“Good advice often grates on the ear;” so goes a Buddhist maxim. What kind of consultant, trainer, coach, or facilitator do you want?
“Do these pants make me look fat?” In an effort to avoid being considered impolite or rude, you may be trying to avoid embarrassment or awkwardness on the part of the other person. That can result in your being less than honest. But if you soften the truth —
You can’t undo months of neglect or poor treatment. You can’t magically erase the challenges you were facing while everyone was holding on with their fingernails. But you CAN do some of the things that matter, because they matter now:
Competing for air-time is a professional sport. We compete to get our ideas heard, to win the argument, and to clarify our points. More often than not, people interrupt each other to maximize their air-time. (Presidential debates aside!)
The last stage of your Project Team’s existence is not the implementation of the project. It’s not the bow during applause, and it isn’t even measuring the all-important ROI.
Once upon a time (also known as the ‘old days’), companies operated from the top down. The boss told you what to do, and you did it. Today, employees don’t often wait for the boss to make the decision. And many bosses want people to feel empowered and take more initiative. With the pressures and constraints my clients are working with today, employees need to work together with the boss, not simply for the boss.